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Are you Actually an 'Empath'?
It might surprise you that many who think they are empaths actually are NOT,
and most true empaths don't realize they are.
Do others seek you out when they're hurting?
Do you feel their emotions in your own body?
Do you accommodate others until you're depleted?
Are you tired of defending yourself from getting accused of being a people pleaser or codependent?
You've probably tested in the MBTI (Meyer's Briggs) as INFJ, ENFJ, ISFJ, ESFJ, or other "Feeling" types, Right?
Do you still feel confused about your true identity, and maybe at the point of being too depleted to care?
There is HOPE!
What most don't understand:
There's a crucial difference between being an Empath and having "High Empathy".
Understanding which one you are changes everything about your healing journey.
True Empath
Boxwood
Empathy is part of your Heart-Tree Design
You, BOXWOOD were created to absorb emotions from others. Yes, but from a place of restoration!
To transform the atmosphere into a healing sanctuary. Your empathy literally brings alignment to others' as part of your God-given heart's design.
When healed it is powerful, when constrained, defeating.
You know you're a Boxwood, if you
- Internally feel others' emotions
- Have extreme compassion to accurately put yourself in others shoes
- Able to choose to accommodate, and will joyfully self-sacrifice
- You share how things make you feel, expecting others to reciprocate, but rarely do they, so you give until you are overwhelmed
- Once you hit breaking point you withdraw (or under pressure, explode)
- You are a safe place for others are hurting, and they seek you out.
- You feel through decisions with deep intuition that is difficult to explain
- You need full transparency to process and develop relationships.
Highly Empathic, not Empaths
Acacia - Olive - Myrtle
Do you have deep compassion and care intensely for others? Honestly take inventory, do these emotions take over where you don't know what is your emotions and what is someone else's? or is it more that you feel your emotions for the depth of emotions you feel others are having? Unlike Boxwood, empathy for archetypes Acacia, Olive and Myrtle serves your heart-tree design rather than being your primary design. You are still VERY compassionate and have empathy, it just is processed differently based on your additional connection pathways (how you hear God and connect with others).
Empathy Powers Your Heart-Tree Design
Acacia: Empathy drives your service and endurance, knowing what others need.
Olive: Empathy fuels your encouragement and healing, bringing hope and restoration.
Myrtle: Empathy deepens your wisdom and insight, helping others to understand truth.
While not Empaths, these archetypes are still highly empathetic and also go through a 4-Stage Heart Healing process for freedom.
Not Empathic, but intune differently
Designed for Strategic Clarity
Pine - Cedar - Fir
While others are processing emotional currents, these three Heart Trees excel at strategic discernment to separate emotions from essential data, facts and necessity by divine design. These are the Heart Trees who can navigate breakthrough when circumstances would overwhelm others, providing the protection, clarity and direction that highly sensitive hearts desperately need.
Cedar: Sees truth with clarity and conviction. Their divine insight cuts through emotional noise to expose what's really happening underneath surface feelings.
Pine: Generous wisdom sees what's truly needed, their strategic understanding of how to provide resources and support that creates lasting transformation rather than temporary relief.
Fir: Visionary leadership sees the bigger picture with the ability to move beyond immediate emotional reactions to build solutions that actually solve problems and create sustainable change.
While not Empaths, these archetypes are still highly sensitive where they need to be. If we expect them to be empathic to our emotions, that is not something they're designed for.
Ok? So, what's the difference?
Critical Difference Between Empathy and Being a Boxwood (Empath)
is while both relate to understanding others' feelings:
Empathy is an ability everyone can develop
While being a Boxwood (Empath) is a specific heart-tree design that literally absorbs others' emotions; this cannot be taught, but it CAN become a SUPERPOWER!
The Breakdown
High Empathy
The ability to understand and care about another person's feelings. You recognize when your friend is sad after a breakup and offer comfort. You feel compassion, but their emotions don't become yours.
Boxwood (Empath)
You don't just understand emotions. You feel others' emotions as your own, and sometimes even physical pain into your own body. Your friend's sadness becomes your sadness. Their anxiety shows up in your chest. You physically feel what others feel, often without realizing it's not yours. It can be confusing and frightening, as you don't know why YOU feel this way, it feels like insanity. Most people don't believe you, so you learn to stay silent.
Summary:
Empathetic
You care deeply and understand others' emotions
Boxwood (Empath)
You literally absorb and process others' emotions, feelings and pain as part of your God-given heart design.
Boundary Advice?
Not helpful!
You are NOT "too sensitive",
nor a people pleaser,
nor even co-dependent.
You are operating with incomplete information about your God-given Birthright Heart design.
Once your heart is healed, you have a supernatural alignment to affect the atmosphere around you, so that you are not in constant battle, being thrown around on emotional waves.
This chaos causes an extrovert Box Tree to THINK they are an introvert, or ambivert.
Boxwood (Empath) Journey to Heart Healing
Every Boxwood moves through these stages on their journey to Kingdom impact
Stuck
Operating under generational strongholds and wounded patterns
Wounded
Boxwood
Accommodates demanding requests to avoid conflict
Absorbs others' emotions as personal inadequacy
Withdraws when overwhelmed but maintains surface cooperation
Enables others to avoid accountability
Released
Beginning to break free from patterns, recognizing your true design. Committed to learning and applying new truths.
Committed
Boxwood
Focused determined, but in own strength
Faces healing, but still not seeing the process
Set boundaries, but realizes they don't work
Recognize manipulation
Learning your voice matters
Healed
Soul Dynamics are reset: Strongholds, generational patterns and trauma broken.
Surrendered
Boxwood
Generational healing through Jesus Christ
Learns walking in their authentic-self, brings divine boundaries
Compassion, for self first, then to others
Processing emotions without overwhelm
Creates safe spaces
Truth
walking in full restoration, affecting change for supernatural Kingdom impact
Activated
Boxwood
Affects atmospheres
Alignment for the broken, with boundaries
Discerns with Accuracy, without ownership
Creates transformation sanctuaries
Empowers others to walk in conviction/truth
Most Boxwood are stuck in "Constrained" or may have broken free
from the oppression and are walking in "Released", very few have found
the freedom to be Healed, or walk in full Truth of their Heart-Design.
Sadly many have walked away from the church, because of not being accepted.
Relationship Dynamics
Potential Danger for
Boxwood
These three combinations can be devastating when a
Boxwood is constrained (wounded), but can become world-changing when both Heart-Tree Archetypes are healed and walk in God' Truth.
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Boxwood Superpower
Notice the pattern:
When Boxwood walks in truth, they have power to influence the dynamic even when the other person is still constrained.
Your healing journey doesn't just transform you, it creates ripple effects that can awaken truth in others.
Fir & Boxwood = Exploitation Zone
Boxwood craves transparency and emotional connection, while constrained Fir sees this accommodating nature as useful for their goals. Constrained Firs see relationships as strategic rather than intimate. Boxwood's need for a genuine heart connection may feel like an obstacle to Fir's independence. Fir gets what they need (accommodation, support) without giving what Boxwood needs (emotional intimacy).
Both Constrained
Fir: Exploits Boxwood's innocent trust for control
Boxwood: Naivety enables potential abuse
Result: Dangerous power imbalances and emotional manipulation
Boxwood in Truth
Boxwood: Speaks truth with compassion, sets boundaries
Fir: Frustrated by lack of control, may escalate
Result: Boxwood's wisdom challenges Fir's controlling patterns
Both in Truth
Fir: Provides platform and protection
Boxwood: Provides heart wisdom
Result: WORLD-CHANGERS who impact generations
Have you seen yourself in this dynamic before?
Cedar & Boxwood = Devastation Cycle
Cedar's intense drive for truth and righteousness clashes with Boxwood's gentle, sensitive processing style. Constrained Cedars deliver truth with urgency and black-and-white thinking, which can emotionally devastate Boxwood's tender heart. Boxwood's attempts to soften Cedar's message or ask for gentler delivery triggers Cedar's frustration about "compromising truth." Cedar gets their message heard but Boxwood withdraws in emotional pain, creating cycles where Cedar becomes increasingly harsh while Boxwood becomes increasingly distant.
Both Constrained
Cedar: Intensity and black-and-white thinking
Boxwood: Emotionally devastated by harshness
Result: Cedar becomes harsh while Boxwood withdraws in pain
Boxwood in Truth
Boxwood: Doesn't absorb Cedar's intensity as personal attack
Cedar: Still harsh but Boxwood stays engaged
Result: Boxwood's stability helps Cedar see their impact
Both in Truth
Cedar: Truth delivered with wisdom
Boxwood: Wraps truth in infinite compassion
Result: TRANSFORMATIONAL HEALERS who heal deepest wounds!
These patterns don't have to define your relationships!
Olive & Boxwood = Resentment Cycle
Olive's natural enthusiasm and positive outlook can mask emotional shallowness, while Boxwood needs genuine depth and authentic connection. Constrained Olives stay on the surface, avoiding heavy or difficult conversations that Boxwood needs to process. Olive's need for authenticity leads them to make snap judgements about anyone who takes time to process; labelling them as inauthentic, unsafe or untrustworthy. Olive seeks a Legitimacy through their connection with God, and feels anyone who is challenging them is trying to dishonor them.
Boxwood's deeper emotional needs get bulldozed by Olive's self-protective surface-level need to keep everything positive, avoiding difficult conversations at all cost. This leaves Boxwood feeling invisible and unheard. Olive gets to maintain their comfortable positivity while Boxwood silently absorbs the emotional disconnection, creating growing resentment and distance that Olive may not even notice. Olive will feel and think that connection is deeper than it is because they feel it to be, however Boxwood is still processing and keeping boundaries. The Olive sees the boundaries as rejection, and so rejects the Boxwood declaring how unsafe the Boxwood is making them feel, and trying to twist things to make the Boxwood feel it is all on them.
Both Constrained
Olive: Surface-level positivity masks emotional shallowness
Boxwood: Feels bulldozed and invisible
Result: Silent resentment and growing emotional distance
Boxwood in Truth
Boxwood: Speaks up about deeper needs
Olive: May resist going deeper, staying surface
Result: Boxwood's authenticity challenges Olive's avoidance
Both in Truth
Olive: Genuine encouragement with depth
Boxwood: Deep compassion meets authentic joy
Result: HEALING POWERHOUSE where miracles happen!
When hearts are healed, surface confusion disappears into
into a powerful and healing authentic depth and genuine connection.
Holy Spirit Led Healing → Disciple of Christ → God's Calling
Start with Christ healing your heart first!!
Heart comes FIRST
"Love the Lord your God with all your HEART,
and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength."
Mark 12:30
Constrained
Box Tree walking wounded
- Overwhelmed by others' emotions
- Attract energy vampires
- Accommodates to avoid conflict
- Enables destructive patterns
- Withdraws when boundaries crossed
- Feels guilty for having needs
In Truth
Boxwood walking set-free
- Transforms pain into healing for others
- Sets loving boundaries with wisdom
- Confronts with compassionate truth
- Creates safe spaces for breakthrough
- Empowers others to heal and grow
- Attracts those ready for transformation
When Boxwood (Empath) heals their heart,
they become powerful agents of Kingdom transformation
Here's Your Complete Identity Restoration Journey
Most empaths get stuck trying to manage their sensitivity instead of understanding their complete divine design.
The Ipseity Approach™ takes you through all 4 levels so you can finally operate as the
powerful agent of Kingdom transformation you were created to be.
Heart Healed
Break free from generational strongholds that keep you drowning in others' emotions. This is a program for serious cycle breakers who want to learn how to walk in the TRUTH and FAVOR of God. Learn how to be a true disciple of Christ, so you can go and make more disciples, as the gospel calls us to do.
Mind Aligned
Many people discover their true mental personality once their heart is healed, as the heart-head conflict sabotages most ability to assess personality test questions accurately. We walk with you step by step on the Heart Links to the mind to know exactly how your mind aligns with your heart.
Body Balanced
Healed Heart with an aligned mind causes most Dis-Ease auto-correct. Next is walking in a balance of the Fruit of the Spirit in all systems.
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Soul Activated
And finally, season 4, the finale, it is time to step out into your Kingdom Calling without question, knowing your Soul Impact Lens gives you the foundation to go to the nations. This is how the soul communicates once your heart is healed, and you are walking in increasing Favor with God and man.
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You weren't designed to drown in others' emotions.
You were designed to transform pain into healing sanctuary.
First, you must heal your own heart.
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